11 Things. What are 11 things your life doesn’t need in 2011? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life? (prompt author: Sam Davidson)
Not necessarily in this order…
1. anger—it starts as a nearly imperceptible malignant growth and spreads its tentacles of rapidly multiplying cells until it has metastasized and taken over my body. To eradicate, I must practice compassion, remember not to take things personally and remind myself that only I am responsible for controlling my reaction to life’s events and to those around me. And I have no control over others. Getting rid of anger will allow me to be a calmer, more confident parent and fill me with peace, enabling me to give more to those I love.
2. self-criticism—why do I allow the voices in my head to cut me down? I run too slow, my thighs are too big, my gut too jiggly, my writing not creative enough. I must remember to treat myself as I would a beloved friend–with kindness, compassion and a dose of humor. Getting rid of the negative voices would allow me to continue to move forward in making life dreams and goals come to fruition.
3. worrying about a messy house—life’s too short to always have clean floors. I’d rather be out for a run or exploring with my camera. Besides, my friends feel better if my house shows a bit of chaos! Letting go of this will free up my time for other pursuits. (Frankly I think I’ve already started on this one!)
4. too much stuff—ok, got a jump on this one too, but I could do more. If I haven’t worn something over the past year, it goes to donation. Not sure how this will change my life except that I feel less weighed down with material stuff and lighter emotionally.
5. concern about what others may think—I can be overly sensitive and take things personally when I shouldn’t. hmmm…this one may be harder to get rid of; more of an ongoing process. But losing this concern would free me to put more of my writing out there without holding it in for fear that someone will be critical. Yeah, there will be critics, but such is life.
6. uncomfortable shoes—more closet clearing necessary! My feet will appreciate it.
7. complacency—moving forward toward my goals means getting out of my comfort zone, being uncomfortable. That could be setting the alarm earlier to write before work so that I don’t make excuses about not having the time to do so. Or running intervals one day a week until my lungs and legs burn so that I can increase my speed a little. Getting rid of complacency will push me to live on a fuller scale, to push my boundaries, give me a clearer sense of direction.
8. energy-sucking people or things. At the beginning of the year, I cut t.v. out of my life which allowed for much more reading. A couple weeks ago, we got a t.v. again and I must be careful not to waste time watching shows that don’t add positively to my life experience. This past week has been Big Cat on Nat Geo Wild and I have watched a few of those! And for those folks who take my time whining and filling the air with negative emotion, sorry, I’ve got other things to do.
9. depression—days when dark clouds won’t budge, when it feels that pain won’t go away. Remember the light at the end of the tunnel. Like my running friend B says, sometimes you’re just at a bend in the tunnel and can’t see the light for a bit, but keep plugging ahead and you’ll find it; it’s there. Consistent exercise for me really helps to minimize episodes of depression as do frequent gatherings with close friends. Getting rid of this will help make me more productive.
10. impatience—when my words are sharp with my son or with others I dislike myself. Nurturing a sense of patience, by taking a deep breath before speaking or a moment of calm to myself before responding to an upsetting situation can help me deal with it in a manner that I won’t regret later. This will lead to a greater sense of self-control.
11. excuses—for not writing, running, getting those things done which I promise myself or others to do. Banishing excuses will give me momentum in 2011 and a sense of accomplishment.